Thursday, December 29, 2011

My So-Called Life as a Proverbs 31 Wife

I wish I could take credit for that cute title, but I can't. I am referring to the book I am reading by Sara Horn. I am loving this book.

Sara has basically taken on a 365 day challenge of being the "Proverbs 31 Wife." If you are unfamiliar with Proverbs 31, dust off your Bible and take a look. Proverbs 31 describes what every wife should strive to be...and it seems pretty impossible to be all of these things. Sara Horn's book asks more questions than it does gives answers, but I am really enjoying reading about her journey.

I have a few New Year's Resolutions this year. But the most important resolution is to take the Proverbs 31 Challenge...and let me tell you, I am only a few days into this, and it is a CHALLENGE! My biggest challenge so far is keeping my mouth shut. Sarcasm is my weakness and I have realized I use it ALOT with my husband.

For example, last night as I was trying to get Emma Jo, who is 2, into the bath, her rubberband was stuck in her hair and she was growing very impatient with me. Emma suddenly blurted out, "What the hell?!" Oh my!

After Emma and I discussed how inappropriate that saying was, I told Seth about it. "Hmmmm....I wonder where she heard that?" he said.

While I got the boys into their bath, I told Emma to go sit with her daddy. When I walked out into the living room, where Emma and Seth were sitting, I saw that they were snuggled on the couch, watching Boondock Saints. If you are unfamiliar with this movie, that's a good thing, because it is terribly violent and vulgar....and my two year old is sitting there watching it!

So, I (of course) blurt out, "Gee...I WONDER where she heard that?!" Oops...not very Proverbs 31 of me. I guess the appropriate measure would have been to distract Emma and get her out of the room.

But does Proverbs 31 wife not get to correct her husband? Unfortunately, I have not found the verse that says, "She will tell her husband when he is being an idiot..." Darn.

In Seth's defense, I know he just wasn't thinking about it. He was relaxing on the couch, watching his show and his daughter wanted to snuggle. He was tired after a day's work and he wasn't really thinking about how what was on television was inappropriate for Emma.

But my reaction didn't help, because it just caused him to be annoyed with my response, not to think about his daughter's innocent eyes and ears. Maybe if I had removed her from the room, he would have asked why, and I could have more delicately addressed the issue of what was on the TV with him. 

Like I said, this will be a challenge, but hopefully it will be a great lesson for me and help to make me a better person! :)



  1. Hi Mary! I LOVED reading your post! Your writing definitely brought back memories and feelings I had when I was going through my "experiment." And made me chuckle. :) I'm excited you're taking on the challenge, and I'm looking forward to keeping up with your journey! I'd love to add your blog to a special blog list I'm in the process of creating of those ladies who are taking on the challenge and writing about it! Would that be ok?

    Sara Horn

  2. Oh my gosh, YES! That would be great!! Thanks so much for reading my post and I will keep updating on my "progress"...haha!